5 steps to healing your heartache

5 steps to healing your heartache

Have you ever fallen in love and have had your heart broken?

Have you ever trusted your partner and he or she has misused your trust by getting involved with another person behind your back?

Have you ever tried to mend your broken heart but have not yet succeeded?

If you can answer those questions with a YES, you are reading the right article.

I have experienced three major heart breaks throughout my life and I have learned a few valuable lessons as a result of it.

The main issue is that when we fall in love we begin to trust the other person. We hope that the other person feels exactly the same way at the same time. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. We all begin new relationships with emotional baggage from a previous relationship. We often have not yet "digested" the previous break up but are already in a new relationship. The new relationship will not work out because you are still hurting. And that can lead to a new break up and again one of the partners will get hurt.

It is not advisable to jump from man to man or from woman to woman to try to heal the heartbreak. It causes you to intensify your pain and causes new pain for the other person. As you can see, it can cause a toxic environment inside your heart. You will not be able to live a happy life if you "drown" you pain by bed-hopping. You do not find love by doing that. You only add pain to the pain you have inside you already.

I have learned that it is not a good idea to jump into a relationship when you heart has not healed yet. A broken heart is actually broken in the middle of your heart. If you have ever felt the pain you might agree with me. When my heart was broken last time, it felt as if it cracked open and the pain was simply flowing out.

For as long as you feel that you cannot move on means that your heart still needs to time to heal from the emotional pain.

And here are my broken heart "remedies" to heal before you move on and into a new relationship.

1. Acknowledge your pain. If it helps you to write it down or speak to a trusted friend, please do that. We all are different. Some like to talk, and others like to keep it inside. Keeping the pain and experience for yourself is not is not of advantage.